How valuable you are to the people in your life? Sometimes it is easy to just pass through the day and just "know" your s/o knows you love them, or your family members and friends just know that you appreciate the help and support they provide. Why do we forget to mention daily that we love and appreciate the people in our lives? Why is it when something is taken from you, you then remember how much you loved, appreciated, and valued that person? It is so easy to take for granted that they will be there the next day or the next few hours.
We go through our daily lives just acting like the people in our world are just supposed to know we care for them. Why? Is it because we speak everyday, you know the basic stuff? Or because we celebrate each other on bdays, anniversaries, or holiday's? Or is it because we told them on last week we loved them or thank you? Shouldn't this be a daily thing? Daily words and actions that match? What are our actions showing?
I am very guilty of this, I am not an emotional person AT ALL and I don't need to be told a lot that you love me, or thanking me, or just telling me what I mean to you. I feel like I know my s/o loves me he shows it in his actions, but why am I taking away his need to tell me what his actions already show me? Selfish maybe, well probably just a little bit, I guess it is something I need to work on; cause we ALL need work.
My Sis Reecie sent me an email yesterday Learning from Erin based on a conversation we had a while back she said this made her think of me. And I guess the lesson is this you really never know how valuable you are to someone. You never know what allowing them to tell you how they feel about makes them feel, eventhough you may not need to hear it, they made need to say it. Just being kind, appreciative, and receptive can really help nuture and foster our relationships, all of our relationships.
Everyday when I see my daughter she screams to the top of her lungs "mommy is home" and run's and gives me this big kiss. It makes all the "issues" of the day seem pointless, man I swear we could really learn something from children. I was having a converation with a girlfriend last night who is just really going through it and I didn't do much talking I just listened and reassured her that God has her back and what he has for her NO ONE has take away. Just to really pray about what is going on and LISTEN to him as he will guide her correctly. So once we ended our conversation she said to me " Thanks for lisetening & ur support Crys" and my response was "no thanks needed I love you and am truly here to support you" once again failing to allow someone to tell me thanks and that they appreciated me.
Am I faulty for this? I mean for me I feel like I just don't need to be told thanks and I appreciate your help, I don't do things for thanks. I do it cause I truly want to be there and help my friends. I guess this is something that I really need to work on I have to realize it is not just for me. People are expressing thanks and letting me know I am valuable to them and they need to do that.